Human Sexuality
Posted by Hannah | Filed under College, Love, You tell me
This is going to be a sex-related post, so if that sort of thing makes you uncomfortable, I suggest not reading it…
So, right now I am taking only one class this summer semester. I had originally signed up for two, but I dropped out of the other one. The professor didn’t explain things clearly, yet expected us to know everything anyway. It was like drowning in confusion every time, so I figured the reasonable solution would be to withdraw, get my money back, and take it with a different professor in the Fall.
The class I am currently taking is called Biology of Human Sexuality, and it satisfies three of my required six science credits. After I’m done with this class, I’ll be done with science, since last semester I took Environmental Science. Yeah!
This class has been extremely interesting so far. Basically, we learn about the human body (the male and female anatomy), puberty, pregnancy, hormones, menopause…. and, of course, sex. Right now we are covering the female anatomy, and on Tuesday I’ll be having an exam on the male anatomy. My professor is so cool, she’s a nice lady who makes the subjects less intimidating, and she makes it fun and interesting. She keeps reminding us that she never gets embarrassed, so we can ask her anything we want to know about, and she’ll tell us anything we want to know. And, this is totally random, but my professor looks JUST like Irene from Faccia Bella. I swear she does! haha
Every Thursday from now on, we will be having presentations. My personal presentation is due July 16, and I chose the topic of In Vitro. I wanted to choose a “safe” topic, so I wouldn’t be up there blushing like an idiot, having to use words like “clitoris” in front of my class LOL… I can talk about sex with my friends, but in front of strangers (or parents, omg) tends to embarrass me a little.
One girl gave her presentation yesterday. The topic she did was “Sex Therapy”. She said she wants to be a therapist someday, and she finds the topic of counseling married couples interesting. She basically talked about sexual dysfunctions, such as erectile dysfunction, loss of interest in sex (low libido), lack of communication between partners, sexual repression, etc. Many of these things can be helped if the couple simply talked to each other about their sexual feelings.
Her presentation made me start to think about sexual communication, if that makes sense. My boyfriend and I are verbal in bed, and I don’t mean we have conversations during sex, haha, but I mean we let each other know if we don’t like something, or if we want to do something different, etc. We also like to talk about our sexual experiences we have together, too. We discuss pretty much everything, and nothing is left unsaid. If I don’t like something, I let him know. If he wants to try something new, he lets me know, and we talk about it. We gush over how amazing and romantic it was, and we make sure we’re always on the same page, so that neither of us feels unhappy, repressed, or frustrated.
Unfortunately, not all couples do this, and that causes tension and confusion for some people. We always make it a point to tell each other everything, and sex definitely is included in that. I think I’ve met my sexual match…it’s special and amazing each and every time for us.
I have a few questions…. feel free to answer any of them in your comments! 
1) Do you discuss your feelings about sex with your boyfriend/girlfriend?
2) Do you have certain things you would like to try/experiment with, but are too nervous to let them know?
3) If your partner wanted you to do something sexual that you didn’t agree with, would you do it anyway just to please him/her?
4) Do you feel that things are “equal” between you and your partner when it comes to sex?
5) If you are unmarried, do you ever feel guilty or ashamed after having sex?
6) Does your family/friends know that you are sexually active? If so, do they have any negative opinions about you having sex?
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Karei Says:
June 14th, 2008 at 1:59 pmWow, you know this is because of the domain but anyway, you’re very open minded when it comes to the topic of “sex.” I too am very open about almost anything that’s in my life whether it be about my mother, my ailment, sexual tendecies which I told you a few days ago. Anyway, I can’t answer those questions as yet I am still a virgin at age 25. But your class sounds really interesting. I’d be embarrassed to take that class. If I ever go back to school, I might have to take it. So yeah. Anyway, you better comment back or I’ll remove your link rofl. J/k. You know I’d never do that to you one of my best friends. :).
Christine Says:
June 14th, 2008 at 4:01 pmThat sounds like such an interesting class. There’s a class called Human Sexuality at my university and there’s all these wacky assignments the professor sends you on (like go to a sex club, etc). I haven’t taken it but it sounds interesting. Glad you’re enjoying the class, and good luck on your presentation.
I’ll answer the questions!
1. Yes, Keith and I have been together for 5 years so we’re insanely open to eachother regarding sex. What we like, don’t like, etc…
2. Nope! We’ve pretty much tried everything. And I mean everything, haha. We’ve always been open with each other and feel comfortable enough to listen to each other and respect each other’s wishes.
3. No way! I don’t think anyone should have to do something they’re not comfortable with. Sex is a two person thing, so I believe each person should be 100% comfortable with that they’re doing with their partner.
4. Absolutely!
5. No, I don’t. I don’t sleep around, I’m very careful regarding birth control, and I don’t see anything wrong with it since I have been with Keith for such a long time.
6. My Mom didn’t condone it but she did teach me how to be safe and took me to get the pill. We’re pretty open with each other and she wanted me to be safe if I was deciding to have sex. I’m sure other members of my family assume, but obviously don’t comment on it. (My Dad for example!).
Britney Says:
June 15th, 2008 at 8:26 pm1) Do you discuss your feelings about sex with your boyfriend/girlfriend?
Yes. We talk about things like you and your bf do (as you described).
2) Do you have certain things you would like to try/experiment with, but are too nervous to let them know?
Nope.
3) If your partner wanted you to do something sexual that you didn’t agree with, would you do it anyway just to please him/her?
No way. But this is a funny question because my boyfriend wants me to masturbate in front of him and I told him I didn’t feel comfortable doing that. So now he thinks I’m not fully comfortable around him, but that’s not it. I’m just not comfortable doing that around anyone. It’s a private act, in my opinion.
4) Do you feel that things are “equal” between you and your partner when it comes to sex?
No lol. My boyfriend is the more aggressive one. I usually make him do all the work.
5) If you are unmarried, do you ever feel guilty or ashamed after having sex?
No.
6) Does your family/friends know that you are sexually active? If so, do they have any negative opinions about you having sex?
Yes, and no they don’t.
J Says:
June 15th, 2008 at 9:42 pmWhat an interesting post! I would take that class just for fun lol I love talking about sex! I guess I’ll do the next best thing and fill out those questions:
1) Do you discuss your feelings about sex with your boyfriend/girlfriend?
Yep. Just the way you described your relationship, my BF and I talk about absolutely everything. We talk about sex before, during and after the fact. Sometimes we will randomly think of things we want to do during other parts of the day and mention it to each other. We’re very open.
2) Do you have certain things you would like to try/experiment with, but are too nervous to let them know?
Nope, not at all. I wish I had something totally shocking. There’s stuff I’ve done with my boyfriend that my ex never would have been down for, I’ll just say that. I’m not totally vanilla in bed, but luckily neither is my partner.
3) If your partner wanted you to do something sexual that you didn’t agree with, would you do it anyway just to please him/her?
I honestly can’t think of anything I wouldn’t be down for as long as it was safe. There’s stuff I would never want to do of course, but if I knew it would really turn my guy on, then that would turn me on.
4) Do you feel that things are “equal” between you and your partner when it comes to sex?
Completely. I suppose he could be on top more, but he probably wishes we had sex more on his schedule. We like it at different times, and I usually get my way. I like it in the morning, but he takes forever to wake up and won’t get on top before noon.
5) If you are unmarried, do you ever feel guilty or ashamed after having sex?
Nope, I’m like your teacher - I don’t get embarrassed - and I’m not religious. I’m monogamous and we use protection. Not only do we talk about positions, how we feel, etc., we also talk about health and protection. Plus I think getting married without having had sex is setting up your marriage to fail.
6) Does your family/friends know that you are sexually active? If so, do they have any negative opinions about you having sex?
Everyone knows. We dated for two months without sleeping together and even my mom was like, “What are you waiting for?” We hung out like every day those two months and he’s a great guy. Now we’ve been together over two years. I think if someone else can make you feel guilty for having sex, you shouldn’t be having it. Even if my friends or parents disapproved, I can’\t imagine feeling bad about it.
crinthia Says:
June 16th, 2008 at 3:25 pm1) Do you discuss your feelings about sex with your boyfriend/girlfriend? always communication is definitely key
2) Do you have certain things you would like to try/experiment with, but are too nervous to let them know? no were really open about our sex life.
3) If your partner wanted you to do something sexual that you didn’t agree with, would you do it anyway just to please him/her? depending on what it is, I would try it. And if I didn’t like it then I just wouldn’t do it again
4) Do you feel that things are “equal” between you and your partner when it comes to sex? no but I think they definitely should be
5) If you are unmarried, do you ever feel guilty or ashamed after having sex? no I am with him for the long run, I plan on marrying this man and being with him for a very long time.
6) Does your family/friends know that you are sexually active? If so, do they have any negative opinions about you having sex? no I am an adult and my father knows that!
Crystal Says:
June 18th, 2008 at 2:08 amOh, questions are fun…
1) Do you discuss your feelings about sex with your boyfriend/girlfriend?
Definitely. I’m very open with talking about anything, including sex. I think that sex is very important in a relationship, and I think both partners should feel sexually satisfied, so if I have a problem with something I’ll say it.
2) Do you have certain things you would like to try/experiment with, but are too nervous to let them know? Nah. I think sex is just something you should feel comfortable talking about to your significant other.
3) If your partner wanted you to do something sexual that you didn’t agree with, would you do it anyway just to please him/her? Depends on what it is…Usually I do, but if it’s something like anal I may pass. Depends on how I’m feeling.
4) Do you feel that things are “equal” between you and your partner when it comes to sex? Well…sometimes my guy gets off too fast, but I kind of take it as a compliment like…I turn him on that much. Usually if he doesn’t get me off during sex he’ll give me oral to make it happen.
5) If you are unmarried, do you ever feel guilty or ashamed after having sex? Sometimes…but I don’t think I could be married to someone without knowing how the sex is.
6) Does your family/friends know that you are sexually active? If so, do they have any negative opinions about you having sex?
Yes they know, basically because I talk to my mom about female stuff. They just think I should be on birth control.
Crystal Says:
June 18th, 2008 at 2:10 amPS. I like this theme. Yours always look good.
Stephanie Says:
June 18th, 2008 at 6:19 pm1) My boyfriend and I have, since the first time we had sex, been very open towards each other regarding sex. We guide each other in what we like, tell each other when something is uncomfortable… he’s the first boyfriend (or person in general) I’ve been with who I felt like I could do that with.
2) I did at first… I wanted to kind of test him to see how he would react to certain things that I would consider tame but others might consider a bit rough, and then I eventually told him. Luckily, he didn’t freak out and was very supportive. Now, we’re very open about desires and things we want to try.
3) I would have to really talk to him about it. We don’t want either person to do something the other is uncomfortable with. We’re fortunate enough to have basically the same squicks and desires, though.
4) Perfectly.
5) I’ve felt somewhat empty when I had meaningless sexual encounters. It felt like a waste of my time. But the sex I’ve had while I was in love was absolutely worth it.
6) None of my friends really say anything about my sexuality, because I don’t discuss it with them. Not their business to know the details. Mom knows, dad too in the deep recesses of his mind, haha. My mom would have preferred I waited, but she is still supportive. She is also very glad I can see the difference between sex when you’re trying to keep someone, sex when you’re trying to get someone, sex when it’s sex and sex because you’re in love. I’ve been through all of them, and sex in love is definitely the number one option.
Holly Says:
June 19th, 2008 at 7:06 pmI like this theme, I think it’s pretty. I always like your themes though, they’re always really simple and feminine and stylish.
As for the sex question, I’m not sexually active yet so I’m not going to answer, but the class you’re doing sounds extremely interesting, and like something I would take, if only it were offered at my university, although probably more from a Sociology viewpoint than a Biology one.
Megan Says:
June 20th, 2008 at 8:28 amKnow something funny? Your project is due on my birthday haha I’ll be turning 23 this year but I always love my birthday haha anyways, I will answer the questions for you.
1) Do you discuss your feelings about sex with your boyfriend/girlfriend?
I am married, and communication in every aspect of a relationship is very important. I talk about my feelings about sex very frequently with my husband, and I think because he is extremly hot and can get me going easily haha
2) Do you have certain things you would like to try/experiment with, but are too nervous to let them know?
Ya know, everything that I wanted to do I have done, except one thing and I am very open with my husband and he knows exactly what that is.
3) If your partner wanted you to do something sexual that you didn’t agree with, would you do it anyway just to please him/her?
Well, this really depends on what it is haha there is something that my husband wants to do and I am totally up for it.
4) Do you feel that things are “equal” between you and your partner when it comes to sex?
No, I don’t. I have much more expierence with sex then my husband does [he has only been with 2 girls before me] so it is very unbalanced because I like sex a certain way, and I like certain positions that he has never done before.
5) If you are unmarried, do you ever feel guilty or ashamed after having sex?
N/A….however, I never did when I wasn’t married.
6) Does your family/friends know that you are sexually active? If so, do they have any negative opinions about you having sex?
Well, obviously haha but they also knew before I was married and they did not like the fact that I was sexually active because I lost my virginity when I was 17 and I had sex a LOT haha However, my parents knew that since I turned 18 not too long after losing my virginity [2 months] that they couldn’t say anything about my choices because I was an adult and my choices were my choices.
jess Says:
June 20th, 2008 at 8:29 am1) Do you discuss your feelings about sex with your boyfriend/girlfriend?
i’m married. so, yes.
2) Do you have certain things you would like to try/experiment with, but are too nervous to let them know?
nope. i’m very comfortable with my husband.
3) If your partner wanted you to do something sexual that you didn’t agree with, would you do it anyway just to please him/her?
honestly, it depends on what it is. i try to please him whenever possible.
4) Do you feel that things are “equal” between you and your partner when it comes to sex?
sure do.
5) If you are unmarried, do you ever feel guilty or ashamed after having sex?
n/a
6) Does your family/friends know that you are sexually active? If so, do they have any negative opinions about you having sex?
yeah they know.
Hannah Says:
June 20th, 2008 at 2:53 pm1) Do you discuss your feelings about sex with your boyfriend/girlfriend?
It’s kind of funny actually.
Oh yea. Like you and yours, nothing is left unsaid. We’re open about everything, and I really mean everything.
2) Do you have certain things you would like to try/experiment with, but are too nervous to let them know?
Definitely not. Not like we’re messed up, but we’ve had discussions about some pretty odd things. haha
3) If your partner wanted you to do something sexual that you didn’t agree with, would you do it anyway just to please him/her?
No, and he knows that. If I’m not comfortable with something, he isn’t either, and vice versa.
4) Do you feel that things are “equal” between you and your partner when it comes to sex?
I do. We make it a point to keep things even.
5) If you are unmarried, do you ever feel guilty or ashamed after having sex?
I don’t. We both truly feel we are in love with each other, and see us together in the future, and so does everyone around us.
6) Does your family/friends know that you are sexually active? If so, do they have any negative opinions about you having sex?
My friends do, but my family doesn’t (or rather, our parents). My friends have no negative opinions. They know we’re careful, and know we aren’t just being immature about it. As for my family, the ones that do know feel the same as my friends. We actually talk to his sister about our sex lives all the time. It’s really funny. And with our parents, I really don’t think they’d freak out and separate us or anything, but they’d probably have a verryyy stern and uncomfortable talk with us. But we both think they know, or at least have a feeling about it.
I’m really glad you made this entry. A lot of people really do just need to talk, as weird as that sounds. There are a lot of couples out there failing because of this. Not too many people realize how major sex is in a relationship.
Irene Says:
June 22nd, 2008 at 6:51 amYour professor DOES NOT look like me! *lmao* That’s ca-razy!
Ooo - smexy questions!
1) Do you discuss your feelings about sex with your boyfriend/girlfriend?
Absolutely. I will admit that as of late I’ve been giving up excuses at to why I haven’t been interested in sex instead of just saying I’m not interested. *lol*
2) Do you have certain things you would like to try/experiment with, but are too nervous to let them know?
Hrm… no, not especially.
3) If your partner wanted you to do something sexual that you didn’t agree with, would you do it anyway just to please him/her?
It depends, but I wouldn’t do anything would make me so uncomfortable that I wouldn’t enjoy myself. I mean, what would be the point? *lol*
4) Do you feel that things are “equal” between you and your partner when it comes to sex?
Absolutely.
5) If you are unmarried, do you ever feel guilty or ashamed after having sex?
N/A
6) Does your family/friends know that you are sexually active? If so, do they have any negative opinions about you having sex?
Umm - I would hope they know since I am married. XD
Vicky Says:
June 22nd, 2008 at 9:49 amI WISH we could take a class like that. I think it’d be so interesting.
Questions!
1) Do you discuss your feelings about sex with your boyfriend/girlfriend?
Yes. Usually it’s me who brings it up, I feel like he’s a little more reserved about it, but I’m trying to make me feel more comfortable about the topic in general. I think I’m slowly getting through.
2) Do you have certain things you would like to try/experiment with, but are too nervous to let them know?
I’m open about things I’d really like to try. Sometimes initiating the conversation can be difficult, but I wouldn’t say I’m nervous about it.
3) If your partner wanted you to do something sexual that you didn’t agree with, would you do it anyway just to please him/her?
No. It would depend entirely on the circumstances, but I know that if one of us didn’t want something, the other wouldn’t expect it regardless.
4) Do you feel that things are “equal” between you and your partner when it comes to sex?
I occasionally wish he’d ASK for things more. If I ask his opinion he sometimes just goes for the old “whatever you want to do”…which is nice, but can be frustrating. He used to be very very shy about discussing sex, whereas I’ve always been quite open about it, so I guess we’re just searching for that happy medium.
5) If you are unmarried, do you ever feel guilty or ashamed after having sex?
No. Not with my current boyfriend, anyway. I’ve had a couple of past relationships where this has been the case, but now I feel secure in everything that we do.
6) Does your family/friends know that you are sexually active? If so, do they have any negative opinions about you having sex?
I’m not actually sure if family know, because they’ve never asked and I’ve never thought it was important to tell them. My parents absolutely LOVE my boyfriend, so I think they’re comfortable with the idea and it’s not a problem. With friends, we discuss it openly.
That was interesting to answer.
Olivia Kitty Says:
June 25th, 2008 at 1:32 am1) Oh yeah
2) Yes…
3) Depends on how I feel at the time.
4) Not really
5) Never
6) They may have an idea, since we live together. But, I haven’t “told” them.
abby Says:
June 27th, 2008 at 3:29 amyour whole entry was quite interesting, and this is something that people shouldnt be embarrassed about because it’s healthy. it’s a very natural thing.