A quick note on my last post: I was quite frustrated with the whole Spanish class situation, and I have been contemplating on changing my major for about a year. Then, on Wednesday, I went to talk to a career counselor. She said if I wanted to change my major, I don’t even need a foreign language course. So, when I got home, I went to my computer and withdrew from that Spanish class faster than you could say “por favor“! LOL
I had the most beautiful, perfect weekend, with my love. We always have an amazing time together… it’s like we’re in our own little bubble of reverie, and before we know it, hours have passed by so fast.
We have been dating for nearly a year, and in October it will have been “officially” a year. Although we have had a few problems in our relationship, we’ve been able to maturely work through them. My family still doesn’t really approve of him because he’s older than me, but I love him very much despite that fact. Realistically, I know that things may not always seem “perfect” like this as time goes by… because in my experience, love often turns sour after a certain amount of time, as if love has an expiration date or something. But, in this case, it hasn’t happened yet. It seems like every time we spend time together, I love him a little bit more, and he’s just as crazy about me as ever. Things seem great.
So, over the weekend, I noticed a few things about our relationship. Here are just my thoughts on “mature” versus “immature” relationships, based on my past and present experiences. Though these may not be true for everyone, here is what I find:
Immature love is thinking that you must always have your hair/makeup perfectly done at all times, so your boyfriend will find you attractive.
Mature love is knowing that sometimes, even if your hair is a bit messy and you’re wearing pajamas, if your guy really loves you, he’ll still find you irresistible.
Immature love is thinking that you must have sex with your man 24/7 in order to “keep” him.
Mature love is sometimes just being happy falling asleep in each others arms.
Immature love is being hateful to all women, thinking that every female is your enemy and in competition with you, wanting to steal him away from you.
Mature love is being able to relax and understand that if you have the “right” guy, the only female he wants is you.
Immature love is being jealous, suspicious, and controlling of your boyfriend. Wanting to know what he’s doing at all times, and who he’s talking to. Believing rumors and/or jumping to conclusions before having a discussion with him. Overreacting or being ridiculous. (”I saw you talking to your female co-worker for like 2 minutes! Are you cheating on me? IT’S OVER!“)
Mature love is not allowing foolish jealousies to cloud your thoughts, and being able to sit back and see the whole picture instead of flying off the handle over small instances. It’s bypassing all the BS and getting down to the matter, just between you and him.
Just a few of my thoughts… let me know what you think.
Hannah is a quiet 21 year old college student living in FL. She has an insatiable lust for lip glosses and beauty products. She's an addict of chocolate, upbeat music, everything pink, 
Jessica said:
Sep 01, 08 at 9:02 pmI am glad your weekend went well. I too got to spend the weekend with my love, and it was wonderful.
I agree 100% on your immature love vs. mature love thoughts. I know so many middle- and high-schoolers who are head-over-heels in love, but I can see that their relationships are very immature. Even college students sometimes have immature relationships. I think everyone has to grow up a little bit, and then they will understand how to love more perfectly.
Lauren said:
Sep 01, 08 at 9:24 pmWhile I have not yet had the joy of falling in love, I totally agree with all of your points. I watch so many girls my age copying the actions of your “immature” list, and from the outside, it just looks shallow.
It’s great that you have somebody who loves you, for you. =]
Crystal said:
Sep 02, 08 at 3:08 amI totally agree with those…
I wish I could have just dated my boyfriend and not have moved in with him from the start. Then maybe we too would feel like we’re in a bubble. lol
Alanna said:
Sep 02, 08 at 6:04 pmI’m glad you’re relationship is going so well!
Katy said:
Sep 06, 08 at 7:47 amTotally agree with your thoughts on love! I love the last one especially because I never understood jealous GFs… if your so insecure, find a new BF!
Lolita said:
Sep 08, 08 at 8:36 pmGlad to hear that your weekend went well. The fact that you love him is all that matters. I’m glad that you two have worked out so well. I wish you many more good times together.
I have to agree with all of your facts. Some people never take the time to step back and examine things in a relationship. It’s something that’s important, though.
Jesi said:
Sep 09, 08 at 8:24 pmI’m glad that your weekend went well. It’s always good to have some time with a person that loves and cares for you that you also love and care for.
As for the thoughts on love, I think that it helps when both people feel comfortable enough in the relationship so that all of the things just fit. Do you know what I mean?
Amy said:
Sep 11, 08 at 8:42 amThose were perfect comparisons between immature and mature relationships! I’m so glad you found Real love! It’s 5 yeas for my fiancee and I this month! Crazy how fast time flies. A strong friendship makes for a strong relationship. I’m glad you guys compliment each other.
Britney said:
Sep 15, 08 at 1:32 pmMy relationship is definitely mature love. Although I do sometimes get quite jealous because he sees the girl who took his virginity a lot and it kind of bothers me. I don’t know why though.
Tiana said:
Sep 16, 08 at 3:01 pmI like your list of thoughts and love and completely agree with them. I’m happy to hear your relationship is going well.
Caitlin said:
Sep 16, 08 at 6:28 pmI’m glad you had a great weekend. I think that your reasoning of mature and immature love is very insightful. I think it’s a fabulous way to tell some of the differences. Isn’t is really special when you really do find that “real” love?