I haven’t updated in ages. “Real life” has been taking over my online life.

So… my 21st birthday wasn’t bad. I had a few drinks, but as I predicted, I did not get drunk. I had a glass of wine with dinner with my family, and I decided my taste buds aren’t sophisticated enough to enjoy it. LOL it was gross, in my opinion! The waiter called it a blush zinfandel or something like that? I didn’t like it. I even went as far as dumping the last half of the wine into my Dr. Pepper, and it tasted good that way. I’m so not classy! hahaha

That night, I also had a strawberry daiquiri with friends and a “hard” lemonade, which I really liked. I’m the type of person that needs sugary, fruity drinks that disguise the taste of alcohol… I like “feeling” like I’m drinking without actually tasting the booze. Pathetic, right? That’s just me though!

My 21st was relatively pleasant.. got some new clothes, candles, jewelry, pajamas, and accessories for my gifts. It was nice.

Okay… I have a little problem I’ve been worrying about. I think I totally overstepped my boundary today and possibly should have kept my big mouth shut.

I have a close girl-friend who is married, with kids. Her husband’s job requires him to travel a LOT, and he’s gone for weeks at time. She works a full-time job, and then comes home to take care of the kids (which is like a second full-time job in itself). She basically does everything by herself, and often tells me that she feels like a single mom because her husband is rarely home. When he is home, things are tense and she tells me that they fight a lot.

My boyfriend is somewhat friends with her husband. He (the husband) told my BF that he (husband) had went to a strip club a few nights ago. Naturally, my guy told me about this. My friend (wife of husband) did not know about this.

Since she is one of my best friends, naturally I felt rather pissed for her. Here she is, working basically 6 days a week, taking care of three kids, and doing the best she can. Money is tight and every dollar needs to be accounted for and spent wisely. He’s out traveling and working, staring lustfully and throwing money at stupid bimbos in a strip joint? Wasting money that needs to be saved? While she’s at home, hardly getting any sleep at night because all the responsibilities fall on her.

Maybe I’m old fashioned, but that sort of thing wouldn’t be cool with me, if I were married. I’m the type of person that thinks porn and strip clubs are fine if you’re single, but NOT fine if you’re married or in a relationship. Maybe this is also an old fashioned opinion, but I think that sexual feelings should be shared with your spouse/partner only. Lusting after some skanky stripper or a fake-looking porn star when you have a great wife at home feels like cheating to me.

Well… my friend didn’t know that her husband had done this. Since she’s my best friend, I felt like she needed to know. If she had found out something like that which involved me, I’m sure she would tell me. I’d like to know. So…I told her what happened today. She was upset, and sounded hurt and angry. She was not happy. She threatened to spend some of his money to “prove a point”.

Now I’m starting to feel like what I did was wrong. I still feel like she needed to know, but I am not sure if it was my place to tell her. I feel like I wouldn’t be a good friend if I kept that information from her, but at the same time I don’t think it’s right for me to have interfered with her marriage.

I don’t know.

What do you think?